It is true. My hubby and I have been living with a deep dark secret for 9 years. It is weighing heavy on us and we are finally discussing the possibility of revealing ourselves. Our concern is that this could destroy our children but they must eventually know the truth. How do we know if the time is right? Are we making a mistake? Will our lives be changed forever?
Ok, I just can’t take it any longer, here it goes… The tooth fairy does not really exist!
There, I said it! Yes, my dear first-born child, your father and I are responsible for placing that gold dollar under your pillow when one of your beautiful pearly whites fall out. Oh, and while we are on the topic, your dad and I have the whole Easter Bunny and Santa Claus racket perfected as well.
It is possible that I may need to work on my delivery a bit but there it is in a nut shell. There is the dirty little secret that is eating away at our souls.
Delightful offspring #1 is a very mature, intelligent, insightful young man of 9. He lost yet another tooth today and has written his regular note to the tooth fairy with his request that “she” leave the tooth behind because he wants to save this one like he has all the others from the past. Of course, he would still like for her to leave behind the required golden dollar he has earned for the pain and suffering that was incurred.
Does he really, truly still believe in the visitors of the night that come and leave special little gifts behind for different occasions or are we all just playing each other a little here? Are we doing him a disservice by continuing the charade or would the disservice be to kill the last few remnants of childhood fantasy that he may have left?
And then there is the challenge of the younger siblings (6 and 1.5). Will he use this as a weapon of mass destruction should he get infuriated with them in the future?
When people talk about the challenges of parenting, this is rarely a topic that is discussed. The anticipation of the visits by our gift bearing friends bring such joy to the kids. How can we rip that from them? Not to mention that the power we gain from the looming visit can be such a wonderful tool, especially around the holiday. Oh come on, you know you have used the line “Santa is watching…” on more than one occasion!
My gut tells me that he is ready but my heart sheds a little tear at the thought of breaking the news. So, I think we will continue the charade for tonight but we will definitely take this under consideration…next time.
I’d love to hear how you have broken the news in the past or plan to in the future and at what age. Please post your comments below because I know there are others wondering the same thing as well.